Twin Tested Life

Name your top three pet peeves.

There are a lot of things I can let slide in my day to day life as a mom of twins, but there are a few pet peeves that always stick with me no matter how much I try to shrug them off. Maybe it is because motherhood makes everything feel more personal or maybe it is because time is too precious to waste on things that drain my energy. Either way these three things get under my skin every single time.

Dishonesty in any form

Honesty is one of the few things that still feels sacred to me. Life is already complicated and motherhood adds a whole new layer on top of that so the last thing I want is to guess whether someone is being truthful. Dishonesty feels like a shortcut to broken trust. I would rather hear something I do not love than be lied to. Whether it is something small or something big the feeling is the same. I value people who mean what they say and show up truthfully. There is enough to worry about without wondering if someone’s words are real.

People who think they get to parent your kids for you

This one hits a little differently now that I have my boys. There is something about becoming a parent that suddenly gives everyone around you an opinion. I can listen to advice because sometimes it is truly helpful but there is a huge difference between gentle guidance and someone telling you you are doing it wrong. Parenting is not one size fits all and no one knows a child better than their parents. What works for my twins will not always work for someone else’s kids and that is perfectly fine. What is not fine is someone inserting themselves in a way that feels judgmental or intrusive. I am learning to trust myself more and tune out the noise.

Unnecessary rudeness to strangers

Life is hard enough and kindness costs absolutely nothing. I never understand why some people choose to be rude in public especially to people they do not know. It feels heavy and uncomfortable and it always sticks with me longer than it should. Maybe it is because as a mom I want my kids to grow up in a world where people choose kindness first. Or maybe it is because I spend so much of my day teaching my babies how to be gentle and patient so it stings a little extra to see adults forget those basics. A smile or a little courtesy can turn someone’s whole day around. I wish more people remembered that.

Closing thoughts

We all have little things that push our buttons but these three always rise to the top for me. Dishonesty judgment and unnecessary rudeness drain energy I would rather put into my family. The older I get the more I guard my peace and the more I can tell when something threatens it. And honestly motherhood has taught me that protecting your peace is not selfish. It is necessary.

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