Twin Tested Life

I hate that my babies are sick this Christmas.

They will not remember it. They will not remember the long nights, the stuffy noses, the tears, or the way I hovered over them trying to make their breathing just a little easier.

But I will.

This Christmas looks nothing like I imagined. Instead of cozy memories and peaceful moments, it has been filled with humidifiers running nonstop, saline drops, and the dreaded nose sucker that makes them cry every single time. I know it helps. I know it is for their own good. But in those moments, when they look at me like I have betrayed them, it hurts in a way that is hard to explain.

I find myself worrying about things I know are not logical. I worry that they resent me. I worry that they think I am causing the discomfort instead of trying to relieve it. I remind myself over and over that this is love, even when it looks like inconvenience and tears.

One of my twins, my CHD baby, seems to be through the worst of it now. There is relief in seeing him turn a corner, especially after everything his little body has already been through. But the relief is mixed with worry, because Dean seems to have it harder. His symptoms are lingering. His sleep is worse. And I see so much of myself in him.

Any inconvenience in my own breathing makes sleep nearly impossible. A slightly blocked nose can turn into a long, miserable night. Watching that same struggle play out in my baby makes my chest ache. I know how exhausting it feels. I know how desperate you get just to take a full breath and rest.

This is not the Christmas I wanted for us.

But it is the Christmas we have. And motherhood has taught me that loving them does not always look gentle or magical. Sometimes it looks like holding them still while they cry, because breathing matters more than comfort in that moment. Sometimes it looks like sitting awake beside the crib, listening closely, just to be sure everything sounds okay.

They will not remember this Christmas.

But I will remember loving them through it.

I will remember choosing what was best for them even when it made me feel like the villain. I will remember the weight of responsibility that comes with being their safe place. And I will remember that this is part of motherhood too.

Not the picture perfect moments, but the quiet sacrifices no one sees.

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